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Date: Sat, 17 Jan 2004 13:45:40 EST
MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit I'm thinking I missed my point in my original message - the limits of email! I am not talking about professionals or groups of tellers gathering to tell stories. Let me sight an example, which is a composite of a couple of folks I have encountered which leads me to ask this question: An individual within a family unit: Say you have an individual who comes to you and tells you their story - - that they are repeatedly told stories from within their family unit for which they can do nothing but witness and listen. The tales from their mother, father, brothers and sisters are personal stories about thier addictions, family abuse of all kinds, stories of many and supposedly repeated poor choice making, gossip about family members, etc. Painful stories are fair game all the time. As time goes on the person doesn't trust family members because their stories are inconsistent, full of gossip and lies and unhealthy behavior. Still the person doesn't disconnect but listens. The stories continue for decades and now include children and young grandchildren. The individual feels deep sadness and desires to be compassionate - - yet, clearly desires to be out of the group. Original message follows: Stories abound in everyone's life. We live our stories and often share our tales Some share very painful stories in extremely negative ways seemingly without any awareness that their stories might have an impact on others. Stories used in this way can be very abusive - I'd say a form of emotional abuse. These traumatic, negative, malicious stories. . . can be like bullets to the individual, the witness, whether it be a child, an adult, an organization, group or community. Does anyone have any experience with this topic? - Mary ***** Mary K. Clark Exploring Stories ~ Weaving Tales ------------------------------- To Unsubscribe from Healingstory send the message: unsubscribe healingstory to: listserv@maelstrom.stjohns.edu ------------------------------- | ||