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Date: Tue, 13 Jan 2004 19:19:54 EST
From: Telanyost2@AOL.COM
Subject: Re: Healing Story Question


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Thank you everyone for this conversation. The question David asks is central
in the lives of most of my clients in the field of domestic violence and
sexual assault. Central to my task is intuiting how best to receive these
stories. Over differing amounts of time the stories do emerge, although in vastly
differing degrees of detail and clarity. As the tellers are repeatedly
encouraged and validated for surviving terrifying circumstances, gradual tangible
healing occurs. There are even circumstances when a client, once cowed with grief
and shame, eventuallly decides she wants to tell her story publicly. This is
usually in the name of breaking the silence and in the hope of empowering
other survivors.
It goes without saying that safety has to be the first consideration: the
safety of the teller, of course, and the safety of the audience. In these public
"telling our story" forums counselors are always identified before the
stories begin, so that any audience triggered by what they hear will have support.
The ideal hope is that through the telling, survivors truly do observe
themselves as triumphant in the hero's journey.
Ann Hoban, MA Sexual Assault and Domestic Viloence
Counselor

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