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Date: Tue, 13 Jan 2004 11:22:39 EST
MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Transfer-Encoding: quoted-printable In a message dated 1/13/2004 3:17:59 AM Central Standard Time,=20 david@VSWEBS.COM writes: > Some folks keep hidden their tales of abuse. Some folks keep secret > their story about overcoming. Some stories give strength to a person > while other hurt or destroy their self esteem, yes. So I'm wondering why > people keep stories, or more so, how stories effect them - positive or > negative. >=20 The positive stories keep me going. They help me cope with the pressures tha= t=20 life has set upon me. In return I have a more positive or rather healthy an= d=20 happy outlook and this in returns helps those close to me that are also goin= g=20 thru the pressures of life. I have a brother and 2 friends with mental=20 diseases.......on a social level I can do nothing for them, on a spiritual a= nd=20 storytelling level, I can. I can listen. One friend writes to me, she has=20= to=20 reread 20 years of letters to remember me, but she does and than sends me=20 letters, photos, etc., about herself. She tells me her story. For my broth= er I=20 listen and he tells me the stories that he is reading. For my other friend,= we=20 e-mail. It helps him for his class and he has someone he can tell his story= to.=20 I go to my favorite stories, they are my friends that help me not feel so=20 sad about just how hard life can hit. To be a storyteller we are also=20 listeners. The negative stories I keep mostly to myself. At first I did share some but= =20 people don't want to hear these stories---they don't want to believe. It is= =20 in the way of telling that matters and something too personal can get in the= =20 way of the correct telling of the story. So when a negative or difficult tal= e is=20 to be told I need to first but distance between it and me so that I can now=20 give it the quality that it needs. This goes for non-personal tales too tha= t=20 can have a personal effect on the teller. As for healing, sometimes just=20 letting it go and not telling is the healing. Why relive over and over agai= n a=20 traumatic event? My mother-in-law did this and could never let it go. We c= an=20 over saturate in story. And than sometimes a story I have can be told so much better by someone else= =20 and so I let that story go and grow thru another's voice. Ah I feel so much better now, Marcia Guti=E9rrez ------------------------------- To Unsubscribe from Healingstory send the message: unsubscribe healingstory to: listserv@maelstrom.stjohns.edu ------------------------------- | ||