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Date: Sun, 19 Jan 2003 12:54:20 EST
From: "Mary K. Clark"
Subject: Re: Storytelling, values, judgment






In a message dated 1/18/03 9:54:59 AM, andreh@USFAMILY.NET writes:
<< Judgment is the process of making a choice or in other words making a
decision which value to use. We also make a judgment when we decide or choose
the subsequent behavior that projects out of our values. So when you pass on
one judgment "A" you are merely making the judgment to pass on judgment "A."
>>

Andre, Gail, Lorna and all,

My definition of judgment is different from yours: "Judgment is the process
of making a choice or in other words making a decision which value to use."

I believe the decisions we make are a subset of the choices we have.
Choosing to judge (judging) is a choice. We do not have to choose to judge.
Note that in my discussion, I use the word "judgment" to mean a decision
where one determines whether the decision made is right, wrong, good or bad.
Not all decisions are made with the added layer of "judgment" upon it.

Nonjudgment has been very helpful to me.

GailStory@AOL.COM writes:
<to "point" the listeners interpretation . . . . I don't think any of us can
tell always what a listener will hear. .>>

Gail, I agree with you that I don't think we can tell what a listener is
receiving from our stories. Even when we think we understand, we may not.
When I give the gift of a story, my story is given without any obligation on
the part of the listener - they may choose to do what they wish with it.

- Mary

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Mary K. Clark
Exploring Stories ~ Weaving Tales
Storyteller, Writer, Coach and Collage Artist

"I'll tell you what I need. This is the soul speaking.
I need love. I need sisters and brothers. I need
discipline and not disciples. I need healing and not to
be a healer. Not a star, but reaching for my own."
Juliana
Coles