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Date: Tue, 7 Jan 2003 11:53:37 EST
From: "Schaffer, Les"
Subject: Re: References for getting rid of personal history discussion






Cristy: Your comment reminds me of my Dad's attempts at the end of his life
to create some meaning and coherence to his story. He, too, had all sorts of
memories, weaving them into a narrative that helped him (and me) to
especially put together all the losses in his life. I remember one of the
last walks that we took. Dad was in and out of infarct dementia at the time,
besides grieving heavily over the recent death of my younger brother. He took
me down a few blocks to what had been the last original farmhouse in our
subdivision. He had vivid memories of the onion fields where now stand dozens
of single family houses. In his personal time frame, the changes were
happening in a rapid and fluid manner, he could see the houses change right
in front of him. He then entered into a dialogue between he, me and God about
my brother's life and death. He invited his own death as the next logical
chapter in the story and bequeathed the tale to me. I fully believe that he
could not let go of the miserably painful life he was in until he brought his
story to a satisfactory conclusion. Anyway, that's the memory, or at least
the part I want to share right now.
Les