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Date: Sat, 4 Jan 2003 16:02:34 +0000
Sometimes the popular books and authors speak to the masses and tell them what they want to hear. In Shakespear's time, I wonder if they spoke about re- framing or recasting a story? Is'nt the repititon of story how we got oral tradition? I arge with Andre And Cristopher and others here. What is our societies time frame, and why can,t we listen to painfull story. In my work with elders, many do not share their story, because they do not feel that we wnat to hear them. One woman I work with is stuck in the same story loop, but through feedback and conversation can access other wonderfull tales. I am touched by what Laura wrote about loss of limbs and loss of family. Blessings for a good new year with health and peace to all. > Truly there are volumes that could be written in response to the > issues raised to the quote of the week that Mary Clark brought to our > attention. I was going to let the whole discussion go by without > adding anything, but upon going to delete the original quote I just > can't let it go without a response to at least one small part - > > At 2:04 PM -0500 12/30/02, Mary K. Clark quoted Wayne Dwyer who wrote: > >The second factor that keeps us producing those > >unwanted problems is our love of wallowing around > >in the dramas of our past, and using our inner > >energy to remind ourselves (and anyone who will listen) > >of all that transpired in our stories that created > >the problems we experience today. No one said > >it better or more succinctly than Shakespeare > >when he reminded us, "What's done is done." > > No, it is not love of wallowing (I find that insulting, and if one > were to take that attitude to a person in pain would block any chance > of a healing relationship forming). It is desire to find meaning in > what is painful. I can't agree with Mr. Dwyer's assessment of human > nature as masochistic. True we can get stuck in stories - but > stuckness is not "love of wallowing". I have known those who have > made valiant efforts for decades to dismiss what they were told is > "done" but which clearly wasn't since it's truth had never been > acknowledged let alone integrated and transcended. It is a call for > help EVEN when there is also all sorts of defensiveness against the > call to change that it might take to receive the help. > > Yes, I do agree that it is when stories of our past dramas serve as > explanations or justifications that keeps them stuck. But no, what's > done (in this case) is not done, otherwise these past dramas wouldn't > haunt us. They are like ghosts, and vampires which all of us who > have tried to find the truth in such tales know rests on > incompleteness, irresolution - what was begun to be done was never > completely done. Repeat it until you complete it! > > Christopher > -- > > Moving Stories - Stories Created, Discovered & Told > > Christopher@Moving-Stories.com - web:www.moving-stories.com > > (303) 477-7833 / P.O. Box 40032, Denver, CO 80204-0032 > > > > > | ||