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Date: Tue, 17 Apr 2001 01:46:08 +0000
Julie wrote: Dear Trudy, I can't tell you waht significance pain plays in your life or anyone else's for that matter. I can share with you that often, both physical and emotional pain made me feel that I was weak and unable to stand tall to live up to ALL of the HIGH EXPECTATIONS that I BELIEVED my family had of me. As I began to grow and change, with help: 1. I learned that some of my family's expectations where unrealistic. 2. I also learned that some of my expectations of me and them were too. 3. I also learned that once I began to identify what was realistic for me to accomplish as well as other people, I discovered that these achievements ran the gammet from very high, to borderline mediocre. The latter realization showed me that too often I was expecting more than was needed. My point is, that the more I became open, honest and real with me about my expectations of me, the more that I was able to be open, honest and real with people about their expectations of me, as well as mine of them. Storytelling was one big piece in my being able to achieve healthy balences in these matters. How? All of what I'd dubbed "My Yit-Yit Self Talk (a.k.a.) Inner Voices" were "True Hams." They liked to tell stories and in order to do it they had to cooperate with each other as well as the total person/Soul that we were. Once my "old wounding types of self-talk voices" learned to cooperate with each other to deliver the stories....it began to slowly, than more so, and sometimes immediately spill over into other all other aspects of my life. Is it perfect now? No. Depending upon what is or isn't occuring in my life as I would like it depends upon what my self-talk feeds me. You know, most times it's simple, postive and often great stuff. I actually get, "We're no longer into that frame of thinking or appraching the issue." If what I've been sharing doesn't make sense to anyone or if you what me to elaborate on how you might use for yourself, in your work with other people.....E Mail me. I'll share what I can for you to decide what you think will work best for you. And, if something I share starts your creative juices to flow to help you see the value in your methods, please share. Julie, a.k.a. Jukey > Dear List, > My name is Trudy Terry. I have been a storyteller in > many settings for a long time. Currently because of > medical problems I am housebound. Story has been > healing in many relationships in my life. Now I am > looking for stories to help heal my body and show me > how to get on with my life. I know very little so I > will be a listener on this list for the most part. > > Right now I am thinking about the story of the wild > swan princes and their sister who suffered so to free > them from the curse. The pain she was willing to > endure to set them free was signifigant. What > signifigance does pain play in our lives? > > Trudy Terry > > > ===== > Love mercy, do justice, walk humbly with thy God. > > __________________________________________________ > Do You Yahoo!? > Get email at your own domain with Yahoo! Mail. > http://personal.mail.yahoo.com/ | ||